The Mind of ~Ifer

2010 has been a really rough year so far.

Mike and I are doing just fine, no worries there.  But this year, it has been a tough one.  A year full of sadness, and emotional turmoil.  One of Mike’s closest lifelong friends is in a hospice home right now, in the final days of his life.  Yesterday we attended a memorial service at our church for another of our members.  There has been just too much of this in the past six months.  Too much sadness, too much grief, too many goodbyes.

Out of the past six months, I have learned one lesson.  One thing that I would wish to share with everyone I meet.  One most important rule of the year for me, for us.

Don’t hold on to the anger.

Please don’t.  Please, please, please don’t.  This life is too fleetingly precious to carry grudges.  There is not as much time as you think, and it just isn’t worth it.  Just. not. worth. it.  Do you have a right to that anger? Undoubtedly.  Are you justified in the stance you have taken? I am sure you are.  But please, please, if I could beg one thing of the people that I meet, it would be to let it go.

I used to think that issues had to be resolved before I could move past them.  What I have learned is that sometimes, we can just move on.  The issues might never be resolved, but do they really matter anymore anyhow?  We CAN just decide to put the past behind us and move on.

My thoughts are scattered, and I am not my most coherent right now.  I don’t know if this even makes any sense at all.

But I beg you, please forgive and mend the fences that you can.  You will not regret doing that, and you may forever regretting not doing it while you had the chance.

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